Hey, self-lovers! It’s time to start loving yourself. That’s right: it’s time to change the way you talk about yourself. If you want to feel better about yourself, it starts with your inner dialogue and how you react when you hear something negative. Let’s dive into some strategies for turning our self-talk around so that we can find more joy and confidence in ourselves.
Don’t let your negative talk become your inner critic
Negative self-talk can be a habit. In fact, it might even feel like the only way to deal with stress and insecurities. However, negative self-talk can also become your inner critic, which is not something you want hanging around your subconscious. Although there are many reasons for this kind of thinking (such as being raised with criticism), there’s no need to let it take over.
In order to reverse this habit, you first need to understand why you do it in the first place. Many people use negative self-talk as a way to cope with stress or avoid confronting problems in their lives—but by doing so they open themselves up to emotional distress and create walls between themselves and others who may be trying help them through their tough times!
Change the way you think about yourself and praise yourself
The best way to start is by changing the way you think about yourself. When you tell yourself, “I don’t like my body” or “I can never do anything right,” it makes it harder for your brain to feel good about what you have done. It also makes it harder for other people to see how amazing of a person or friend you actually are! Instead of saying things like this, try thinking:
- Praise myself for my accomplishments—no matter how small they might be.
- Praise myself for my good qualities—like kindness and compassion
- Praise myself for my hard work—whether at school or at home
- Praise myself when I succeed in something new (or old)
Acknowledge and own your accomplishments
Acknowledging your accomplishments and letting them go unnoticed is a mistake that many people make.
If you’ve done something remarkable, don’t be afraid to brag about it.
If you want recognition for something, ask for it! Don’t wait around hoping someone will notice or praise your accomplishments out of the blue—ask directly: “Hey Jim, I just wanted to say thank you so much for giving me this opportunity at work…I really appreciate everything that you’re doing.”
Or maybe something like this would sound better: “Hey Jim, I’ve been thinking about asking for a raise since I’ve been working with you now….what do think? Would now be a good time? Thanks again! :)”
Start with a morning mantra
Your morning mantra is a short, positive statement you repeat to yourself each day. It’s meant to be something that gets you in the right frame of mind for the day ahead and helps you focus on what’s important. For example, if your work involves giving presentations, a good morning mantra might be: “I am charming and persuasive.” If your work involves math calculations or logic puzzles, it could be “I am confident in my abilities” or “I trust myself.”
Here are some tips for creating an effective morning mantra:
- Keep it specific. Your statement should clearly outline what kind of person (or worker) you want to be that day. It doesn’t have to rhyme—it just needs to convey an idea related directly to how things will go at work or school that day. Try using action verbs like inspire and empower rather than passive ones like hope and wish when possible. That way it’ll seem less like wishful thinking and more like something achievable by working hard enough!
- Be brief but not too brief; try aiming for one sentence per mantra if possible (but don’t get discouraged if it takes longer). You’ll find this easier than starting over from scratch every time because even small tweaks can make a big difference over time! And remember: there’s no wrong answer here; this isn’t about perfectionism but about trying something new that works best for YOU specifically ?
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself
- Make a list of all the things you like about yourself.
- If you can’t think of anything, ask family members and friends for help.
- Do this exercise every day until you have at least 50 things on your list that describe yourself in a positive light—that is, traits that make others want to be around or work with you!
Give up comparing yourself to others
What you focus on grows.
The bottom line is that if you’re comparing yourself to others, your mind will go to the worst case scenario and allow this to dictate how you feel about yourself. For example, if someone else has a lot of money and a great car, then that means that you don’t have much money or are driving an old car. You can see where this would be an unhealthy way of thinking!
Instead, focus on what YOU want for yourself in your life and not worry about what others have been given or achieved in their lives.
It’s ok to toot your own horn from time to time!
It’s ok to toot your own horn from time to time!
You’ve worked hard and accomplished a lot. That’s something worth being proud of, so don’t be afraid to brag about it. If someone compliments you on something you did, revel in that feeling for a second before letting them know how much work went into achieving whatever it was they’re complimenting you on.
If there’s something you want out of life — whether it’s a higher salary or an end-of-year bonus or just more responsibility at work, don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. Be straightforward when speaking with others: if they’re not willing to give it up willingly then consider asking someone else who might have more power over the situation.
In fact, asking for help is one way we can all grow as individuals; even if the answer is no (and especially if the answer is no), remember that saying nothing will never get us anywhere either!
Don’t let anything stand in your way of having a positive outlook on yourself and what makes up who YOU are as an individual: your personality traits are part of YOUR story which makes YOU unique among everyone else around us!
Remember, it’s important to be kind to yourself. You should be proud of the person you are and all the things that make you great. It’s ok to toot your own horn from time to time!