Okay, real talk—who even AM I anymore?
I’m standing in my closet staring at clothes that don’t fit, don’t feel right, or just feel like they belong to someone else. Someone who used to have time for herself. Someone who knew what her style was. Someone who wore heels without thinking twice.
Pregnancy changed my body. Motherhood changed my identity. And now I’m trying to figure out who this new version of me is—and what the hell she wants to wear.
Spoiler alert: She’s definitely NOT wearing those heels anymore. 😂
The Identity Shift Nobody Warns You About
They tell you about the sleepless nights and the diaper changes. But nobody really prepares you for the moment you look in the mirror and think, “I don’t recognize this person.”
Before: You were [your name]. Maybe career woman, maybe fashionista, maybe someone who had a signature style.
After: You’re “Mom.” And somehow that title seems to swallow up everything else you used to be.
You’re wearing the same yoga pants for the third day in a row (no judgment—we’ve all been there). Your hair is in a perpetual messy bun. And those cute heels in your closet? They’re collecting dust because who are we kidding—comfort is LIFE now.
And somewhere in all of that, you lost yourself.
Why Style Actually Matters
I know what you’re thinking: “I have a baby to take care of. Who cares what I’m wearing?”
But here’s the thing—getting dressed isn’t about vanity. It’s about identity.
When you feel good in what you’re wearing, you show up differently. You remember that you’re still YOU, not just someone’s mom.
Style is one of the quickest ways to reclaim pieces of yourself after pregnancy. You might not have time for everything, but you can put on an outfit that makes you feel like yourself again. That’s doable. That’s powerful.
My Mama Makeover Journey (Come With Me!)
So here’s what I’m doing: I’m finding my style again, and I’m documenting it all on Pinterest.
I’m going through my closet. I’m trying new things (and probably failing at some of them). I’m figuring out what works for this new body, this new life, this new version of me who values comfort over cuteness—but wants both if possible.
What You’ll See on My Pinterest
I’ll be updating regularly with:
- What I actually wore (the wins and the “nope, not that”)
- Real outfit combinations that work for mom life
- Comfortable styling for postpartum bodies (because F the heels, seriously)
- Quick 5-minute outfit formulas when you’re running late
- Budget-friendly finds (because mama’s on a budget)
- Style experiments as I figure out what feels like ME now
This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present in my own life again, one outfit at a time.
Finding Your Style After Baby (The Real Version)
Start With Letting Go
Your pre-pregnancy clothes might not work anymore. And that’s okay. Your body changed. Your life changed. Your wardrobe needs to catch up.
Give yourself permission to:
- Donate or store clothes that don’t fit
- Buy new pieces in your current size
- Stop holding onto things “for when you lose the weight”
- Pack up those heels you’re never wearing again (it’s okay to mourn them a little)
Keeping clothes that don’t fit is just a daily reminder of what you’re not. That’s not helpful—that’s harmful.
It Takes Experimentation
You might not get it right the first time. That’s normal!
I’m definitely going to post some outfits on Pinterest that I thought would work and… didn’t. That’s part of the process. You try things, see what feels right, adjust, and try again.
The New Style Rules (For Real Moms)
Forget everything fashion magazines told you. Here are the ACTUAL rules:
Rule #1: Comfort Is Non-Negotiable
If it’s uncomfortable, you won’t wear it. Period. That cute top that needs constant adjusting? Annoying by 10am. Those heels that used to be your power move? They’re a liability now when you’re chasing a toddler.
Comfortable doesn’t mean frumpy. It means you can move, breathe, and live your life without thinking about your clothes every five minutes.
Rule #2: Function Matters
Can you bend down without flashing anyone? Can you get spit-up out of it easily? Does it have pockets? (Because pockets are LIFE.)
Style + function = your new best friend.
Rule #3: You Don’t Need Everything
Start with a few key pieces that make you feel good. Build from there.
A few great outfits you actually wear beat a closet full of clothes you never touch.
Rule #4: Your Body Isn’t the Problem
If something doesn’t look right, it’s not your body’s fault—it’s the wrong piece for your body. Keep trying until you find what works.
Your body grew a human. It’s amazing. Dress it with love, not punishment.
Rule #5: Forget the “Mom Uniform”
You don’t have to wear athleisure 24/7 just because you’re a mom. If that’s your style, great! If it’s not, also great!
Being a mom doesn’t mean giving up your personal style. It means adapting it to your new life. (And maybe trading those heels for cute sneakers.)
What I’m Learning (Follow Along!)
As I go through this journey:
My body is different, and that’s okay. I’m learning to dress THIS body, not wish for my old one back.
Simple works. I need easy formulas I can replicate without thinking.
Accessories are magic. Sometimes the outfit is basic, but the right earrings make me feel put together.
Flat shoes can be cute. Seriously, F the heels. I’m finding cute flats, sneakers, and sandals that make me feel good without the pain.
I don’t have to figure it all out today. This is a journey. Some days I’ll nail it. Some days I’ll be in yesterday’s leggings. Both are fine.
Come Along for the Ride
I’m not a fashion expert. I’m just a mama trying to feel like herself again, and I figured I’d bring you along because maybe you need this too.
Follow along on Pinterest where I’ll be posting:
- Real outfits I’m actually wearing
- What worked and what flopped
- Budget-friendly finds
- Postpartum body-positive styling
- Quick “get dressed in 5 minutes” formulas
- My “goodbye heels, hello comfort” journey
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about remembering that you’re still in there somewhere under all those new titles. And maybe the right outfit (and the RIGHT shoes) can help you find her again.
The Real Goal
This makeover isn’t really about the clothes. It’s about reclaiming pieces of myself that got lost in becoming a mom.
It’s about looking in the mirror and recognizing the woman staring back.
It’s about showing up for my life—not just surviving it in whatever’s clean.
It’s about teaching my kids that mom is a whole person with her own identity.
And if I can do that while ditching the heels and wearing something that makes me feel good? That’s the dream.
So here we go, mama. Let’s figure out who we are now, together. One outfit, one Pinterest post, one comfortable shoe at a time.
Because you’re not just “Mom.” You’re still you. And she deserves to feel good in her own skin (and her own comfy shoes).
Follow my mama makeover journey on Pinterest [link] where I’ll be sharing real outfits, real struggles, and real wins as I figure out my postpartum style. F the heels—we’re doing this comfortably. 👟
